By Dr. Dan Peters, Executive Director, Summit Center, and Podcast Host, Make It A Great One
When we think of ADHD, the stereotypical image that comes to mind is often a young boy, bouncing off the walls, struggling to focus. But the reality is far more nuanced – and, for many girls and women, deeply misunderstood. That’s the topic I explored in my latest episode of Make It a Great One with Danielle Elliott, acclaimed documentarian and host of the powerful podcast Climbing the Walls.
Danielle’s journey into the world of ADHD began unexpectedly in her mid-30s, when a deeply emotional breakup led her to question why she had such an intense response to rejection. That moment set off a series of realizations that ultimately led to her diagnosis, illuminating a truth that countless women have faced but rarely discussed – the hidden toll of undiagnosed ADHD.
Why Women Are Often Overlooked
For decades, the medical community has largely based ADHD diagnostic criteria on studies of young boys, leading to a significant oversight: girls and women often present differently. Many, like Danielle, navigate their early lives unaware that their struggles with focus, organization, or emotional regulation are rooted in ADHD. Instead, they develop coping mechanisms – or ‘masks’ – to fit societal expectations. This masking not only delays diagnosis but often leads to a profound sense of shame and self-doubt.
Breaking the Cycle of Silence
As Danielle shared in our conversation, the impact of this late understanding can be emotionally overwhelming. There’s often a grieving process – a painful reckoning with the ‘what ifs’ of an undiagnosed life. But with awareness comes power. Danielle’s podcast dives deep into these themes, exploring how understanding our unique neurobiology can shift the narrative from deficit to strength.
Changing the Narrative on ADHD
The conversation isn’t just about breaking through personal barriers – it’s about societal change. Our understanding of ADHD is still evolving. Research into the impact of gender, hormones, and life stages like menopause is only just beginning. But the more we talk about these challenges, the more we empower women to live authentically and unapologetically.
Final Thought: Embracing Neurodiversity as a Strength
If you or someone you know has felt the weight of self-doubt, the frustration of missed diagnoses, or the isolation of feeling ‘different,’ remember this: your brain isn’t broken. It’s just wired differently. And in that difference lies a unique power that the world needs.
Listen to the full episode of Make It A Great One with Danielle Elliott (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/climbing-the-walls-the-rise-of-adhd-in/id1157097748?i=1000709410691)!
Learn more about Danielle’s work and podcast at understood.org.
Summit Center offers Adult ADHD and Executive Skills Coaching Services for both women and men. Our experienced and certified coaches are available to guide you with organizational skills, time management, and other strategies so you can focus, stay on task, and achieve your goals. Over time, you’ll learn tools and strategies to help you better complete everyday tasks, maintain closer relationships, and build a more successful career. Learn more at https://summitcenter.us/services/adult-adhd-coaching-services/ or complete this short form to schedule an appointment.
About Dr. Dan Peters:
Dan Peters, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist who has devoted his career to helping children, adolescents and families engage in life so that they can realize their full potential. Dr. Peters is co-founder and Executive Director of the Summit Center in California. He is host of Make It A Great One with Dr. Dan, a podcast available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, RSS, and elsewhere.
