As parents, we want our children to go into the world of school, peers and friendships, and life feeling happy, confident and valued. We do our best to fortify their self-confidence within the home so that they are equipped to be strong and successful in the rest of the world. But what happens when they experience real issues that create obstacles to maintaining a good self-esteem?
One issue that can affect self-esteem is anxiety. Anxiety is common in young people’s lives, especially in the school arena where they are under constant pressure to get good grades and perform. A little stress is normal, perhaps even healthy, but what happens when your child is dominated by worry? This can make your child feel insecure and scared. As a result, they often feel less confident in their abilities to solve life problems and manage situations day to day.
What are some signs that your child is experiencing low self esteem?
• withdrawal from activities or events
• won’t look people in the eyes
• has slumped shoulders
• talks negatively about themselves
• avoids people and situations
• cries often
• displays flat or restricted emotions
Helping kids overcome their fears, even small ones, will help with their self-esteem. You can do this by breaking down something difficult into smaller steps. You can also do this by helping your child to try something new – take a new class, go to a new place, try a new activity. The key thing is for your child to experience a victory – knowing that they can do it – in the face of something seemingly hard or scary. This will help them feel stronger internally and motivate them to try something else which will also increase their self-esteem and confidence in themselves.
Children need to feel they can make it in the world and handle what life gives them. This is also known as resilience. The more confident one feels about ones ability to solve problems and handle situations, the better they will feel inside.
This piece first appeared on Huffington Post.