Parenting

Homework 101, by Dr. Dan Peters

Posted on Sep 18, 2017 in Education, Parenting

“Why do I need to do more work after I have been at school all day?“ “I never get any free time! I have school all day then homework when I get home!” “Why do we have to do the same thing over and over when I already know it?” Do these questions and pleas sound familiar? I am guessing they do! Many parents don’t remember having the amount of homework our children have today, and most do not remember homework starting in kindergarten! Homework has been become a regular parenting topic in my practice, and a primary cause of family arguments and stress. When it comes to homework,...

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What Skiers and Snowboarders Can Teach Us, by Dr. Dan Peters

Posted on May 15, 2017 in Counseling, Parenting

What Skiers and Snowboarders Can Teach Us, by Dr. Dan Peters

My son asked if I could take he and a friend snowboarding for a Sunday adventure. It was short notice and a very long day (4 hours drive each way) but I agreed, looking forward to some quality time with my son and in nature after some big storms. My son was snowboarding with his friend and I decided to ski. I started my life as a skier and evolved to snowboarding over time. Lately though, between skiing with my youngest who was learning to ski, and because my body doesn’t handle snowboarding falls as well as it used to, I have been skiing more. Many of the lifts were double chairs so I...

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Digital Breaks: 5 Things to Help Our Kids Disconnect – by Dr. Dan Peters

Posted on Feb 27, 2017 in Counseling, Creativity, Parenting

Digital Breaks: 5 Things to Help Our Kids Disconnect – by Dr. Dan Peters

Last weekend we had an extended family dinner with many relatives. I was sitting on a cushion on the fireplace and looking at a large couch and an oversized chair stuffed with nine cousins ranging from ages 12 to 22. They were smiling, laughing, sitting on each other and…they were all on their phones! I didn’t realize it at first because I guess it has become so normal to see screens. At that moment I realized I was observing — and living in — a social experiment that is universal to all families today. Media and technology are a regular and normal part of our kid’s lives and...

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Parenting in Uncertain Times, by Dr. Dan Peters

Posted on Jan 28, 2017 in Counseling, Parenting

Parenting in Uncertain Times, by Dr. Dan Peters

Uncertainty. Worry. Fear. These are still the top themes in most of my counseling sessions as a psychologist — with adults, with teens, and even with children. Mainly, the discussions were about the presidential election, then it was about the winner of the election, and now it is about the very uncertain future. What will happen to immigrants? What will happen to trade policies? Will the right to choose disappear? Will gay marriage be overturned? What is going to happen with Russia? In my profession there is a saying that uncertainty breeds anxiety. I think most of us would agree with this...

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5 Steps to Be an Aware Parent, by Dr. Dan Peters

Posted on Jan 12, 2017 in Counseling, Parenting

5 Steps to Be an Aware Parent, by Dr. Dan Peters

Parenting is not about getting it “right” and there is no way to be a “perfect” parent. I say this as someone has spent a lot of time trying to do the “right” thing “perfectly”. Parenting humbles us and tests us in ways we couldn’t have imagined. There is no manual for your child or how to best parent her. There is no grading system or report card. There is only who your child is, how he feels about himself, your relationship with your child, and your child’s ability to cope in the world. Here are a few things I have learned about being an aware parent as a parent and also...

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5 Steps To Managing Stress During the Holidays, by Dr. Dan Peters

Posted on Dec 13, 2016 in Counseling, Parenting

5 Steps To Managing Stress During the Holidays, by Dr. Dan Peters

Thanksgiving feels like weeks ago. Cities, stores, homes, schools, and entire towns are decorated for the holiday season. Lampposts and stop lights are dressed with red ribbons. Luxury cars sport antlers and Rudolph noses. And then there are the commercials. Everyone on tv (commercials and most shows) are smiling, celebrating, decorating and playing in the snow. All of these messages mean this must be the most wonderful time of the year, right? Well maybe it is and maybe it isn’t, and maybe it is both. For many, the holidays signify stress, unrealistic expectations, memories (good and bad...

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How Are You Living Out The 3 P’s? Planning, Proactive, Prioritizing, By Deanna Kim, M.Ed.

Posted on Nov 15, 2016 in Counseling, Education, Parenting

How Are You Living Out The 3 P’s? Planning, Proactive, Prioritizing,  By Deanna Kim, M.Ed.

Lights flickering. Pitch black room. A moment of silence. A flood of thoughts go through my brain like lightning as the hustle and bustle of the evening activities is interrupted. ‘How long will this blackout last?’ ‘Was there something important I was supposed to do tonight?’ If you have ever experienced an energy blackout, you might have encountered an abrupt change of pace in a house lit up with flashlights and candles. For some people, it might be more than, “oh well, now that my phone battery is dead, I guess I’ll have to go to bed early.” It could mean a loss of...

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How Anxiety Affects Your Child’s Self-Esteem, by Dr. Dan Peters

Posted on Sep 19, 2016 in Counseling, Education, Parenting

How Anxiety Affects Your Child’s Self-Esteem, by Dr. Dan Peters

As parents, we want our children to go into the world of school, peers and friendships, and life feeling happy, confident and valued. We do our best to fortify their self-confidence within the home so that they are equipped to be strong and successful in the rest of the world. But what happens when they experience real issues that create obstacles to maintaining a good self-esteem? One issue that can affect self-esteem is anxiety. Anxiety is common in young people’s lives, especially in the school arena where they are under constant pressure to get good grades and perform. A little stress...

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When Overparenting Goes Too Far, by Dr. Dan Peters

Posted on Jun 8, 2016 in Counseling, Parenting

I am sitting across two kind, caring, and hardworking parents who are concerned about their 16-year-old son’s maturity, decision-making, effort in school, and most recently, his ability to pass his driver’s test to get his license. Their strong-willed teenager refuses to practice for the test with the family car, and insists on taking the test in the larger, and much cooler, old family truck which he plans on driving once he gets his license. His dad explains all of the mechanical problems with the old truck and why he feels it will limit his chances of passing the test, and how...

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What’s Up With All the Dys’? And What You Can Do About It, by Dr. Dan Peters

Posted on May 16, 2016 in Assessments, Education, Parenting

What’s Up With All the Dys’? And What You Can Do About It, by Dr. Dan Peters

There are many types of learning disorders that can affect our children. The good news is that learning differences and disabilities are getting more press and attention. However, it can get confusing when trying to understand what they mean and how they are similar and different from each other. Children may have one or more learning disorders, regardless of their strong thinking and problem-solving abilities. When your child is not “working to their potential” it may be because they have a legitimate learning issue. Here are a few of the most common learning issues or “Dys”orders...

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